How many of you thought you’d have a quick look on Google and in no time at all, you’d have some excellent hints and tips on buying an engagement ring?! While there are lots of websites telling you about the 4 Cs, the different styles of engagement rings and how much you should spend, what many of these blogs fail to instruct you to do is to check if there’s a wedding ring that will happily sit on your partner’s ring finger alongside your selected engagement ring…Go back to Google, do a search and you’ll quickly realise that it’s not always as straightforward as you think.
From personal experience and from being a part of numerous online bridal chat groups, I can tell you that the top two questions that get asked time and time again are:
No 1 - What do you think of these dress options? (A, B or C)
No 2 - Which wedding band fits my engagement ring best? (A, B or C)
Choosing a band that pairs with the engagement ring, as well as a co-ordinating wedding ring for you (if you so desire), can throw up some unexpected issues and unplanned costs. We’ve done a bit of legwork and written this blog to help you ask the right questions when looking at engagement rings, so when the time comes for pairing your wedding bands, you don't come unstuck (and hopefully you'll impress your SO at the same time!)
By buying a paired engagement and wedding ring set from the same jeweller:
• You know the rings are going to fit together correctly and the wedding band will enhance the beauty of the engagement ring.
• You may get a better deal, and potentially a bigger diamond, by buying the two rings together.
• They’ll have a consistent design and appearance, and your guarantee will be with one vendor.
• The jeweller will have paired wedding bands for you in the same collection, so see if there's something that incorporates your sense of style too.
• Sizing alterations for all your bands are usually done for you at no extra cost.
On the downside, you’re forking out more cash at the engagement stage. And your partner may feel left out if they’ve not been included in the purchase of the wedding bands. Couples often do pick their wedding bands together; but if you're confident in your choice (particularly if the engagement ring is an unusual shape), and you want to show her you means business, why not present her with them both when you propose?
You've got the cash to make a BIG impression with a beautiful diamond - when looking at engagement rings, always ask to see the pairing wedding bands to see how well they sit against each other - if the setting juts out a few millimetres or if the stone sits low in the setting, your band may need to be custom made to prevent 'gapping' (this is when there is a gap between the engagement ring and the wedding band caused by the stone setting). Do a google image search for 'wedding band gapping' and you'll be surpised how common this problem is. These rings will be admired and worn for life so you want to ensure that they fit well together.
If you need to get a custom-made wedding band made after you’ve proposed, your partner is going to have to be without their engagement ring for 4-8 weeks - build that into your wedding timeline. Talk to the jeweller about this when you buy the engagement ring so you can tell your SO immediately that you have a plan and a schedule organised (more brownie points!). Then you and your SO can choose a wedding band that shares similar design elements with the engagement ring, e,g, diamonds of the same scale and clarity or other details such as 'milgrain', edging or engraving.
Classic simplicity is always a good option - just be aware of the heights and weights of the bands against the stoneset rings.
Fine Jewlers on Etsy
I'm sure you'll want to keep your proposal a surprise but do you know your SO's ring size? One final tip! Get an existing ring that is worn on their ring finger and use a bar of soap and press to secretly make an impression or draw around the inside of the ring using a pencil and peice of paper - this will help your jeweler to determine ring size. Take note of which hand the ring is worn and whether it is the dominant hand. If in doubt, always go bigger than you think - it's much easier to to resize by taking away metal than adding it on.
The most important thing is finding an engagement ring that suits both your partner’s style and your budget; but regardless of which option you go for, we’d like to wish you all the best with your proposal plans!
Monkey Flower Villas is located in the North of Koh Tao overlooking Sairee Beach. Nestled into the hillside, it offers unparalleled amenities, stunning panoramic sea views and exceptional service.
The 2 bedroom Upper Villa set in tropical paradise (Monkey Flower Villas)
Built by owner Lincoln and his wife, Woonsen, over 10 years ago, the unusual name came from Lincoln's Thai nickname, ‘Ling’ (all Thais are given a nickname at birth, and Westerners are given one when they join their Thai family), which means ‘Monkey’ and then they added ‘Flower’, Lincoln's description of Woonsen – what a sweetheart!
Sitting amid lush tropical gardens and granite boulders, their four individually and beautifully crafted villas will provide you everything you need for your destination wedding on Koh Tao. This bespoke venue has all the space you need, combined with stunning surroundings, to celebrate your BIG day. But wait for it there’s more! Monkey Flower Villas also comes with not one, not two, but three…yes, THREE… infinity pools! They’ll certainly keep the water babies amongst you more than entertained!
What a view from The Upper Villa! (Monkey Flower Villas)
Today’s weddings are more and more a reflection of you and your style, rather than simply conforming to what used to be traditionally expected. Whether you want go all out with a theme, or just want to add a little bit of flare here and there, check out our top tips on how you can make your wedding stand out from the crowd.
1. The Dress
There are some stunning alternative wedding dresses readily available on the market and many brides are starting to play with colour by experimenting with blush tones.
Dress: Chantel Lauren Designs
Photo credit: Tyler Rye Photography
If you’re reading this blog, chances are you said “Yes!” to THE big question over the holiday period. You’ve celebrated in style with your nearest and dearest, you can’t stop looking at your engagement ring and you’re completely loved up.
With the festivities over and the New Year resolutions in place, it’s time to gently bring yourself back down to earth and address the serious business of getting organised! But before you dive headlong into planning your wedding, just stop for a moment. Whilst many of us have at least thought about (if not completely planned) our dream wedding from when we were little, do consider your fiancé and their dreams for their BIG day as well!
Photo credit: Weerayut Janthai
So first things first, sit down with your SO and have a real and meaningful discussion with them. A wedding is about two people and you both need to be open and honest about your expectations not only of your wedding day, but also your ensuing marriage; after all that’s the important bit. Communication is key to any relationship, so kick start this next phase of yours with a no-holds bar discussion so that you’re both singing from the same song sheet.
Next, start discussing roughly when you want to get married. Do you have a particular season or destination you’d prefer? Are there any dates in your lives that you’d rather avoid? Also take into account any family or friends’ events coming up in the next couple of years – their weddings, big birthdays, special anniversaries, holidays and baby arrival dates. Don’t forget to check with each other if there are any annual family traditions that you need to avoid as well.
Of course, you can’t plan for everything, but by factoring in all the things you’re pretty sure about, you’re more likely to find a date that suits, with a minimum of fuss. Do try to be flexible with your preferred date as you still need to factor in venue availability; have a couple of alternative dates to give yourself the best possible chance of getting you and your nearest and dearests all together at the venue of your choice.
If you know you’re planning on a destination wedding, check out the public or religious holidays for that country as your chosen time of year may clash with a big festival or a popular holiday time that may impact your finances, as well as your choice of venue and vendors.
Our lovely couple, Jiajing and Xinxin tying the knot in paradise
Deciding who to invite to your wedding is difficult and even more so for a destination wedding.
We are here to help! Our latest blog is designed to help you make those all important invitation decisions. Though it's not always so cut and dry; it may go some way to help you decide who to invite abroad and who to celebrate with at your pre or post-wedding bash at home.